{"id":860,"date":"2008-08-11T12:48:50","date_gmt":"2008-08-11T12:48:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/agenciainclusive.wordpress.com\/?p=860"},"modified":"2008-08-11T12:48:50","modified_gmt":"2008-08-11T12:48:50","slug":"um-dia-para-quem-quer-se-tornar-pai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inclusivenews.com.br\/?p=860","title":{"rendered":"Um dia para quem quer se tornar pai"},"content":{"rendered":"
por David Moyses<\/span> <\/strong>, O Estado de S\u00e3o Paulo<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

N\u00e3o tem sido nada f\u00e1cil ser pai. \u00c9 \u00f3timo, portanto, ter um dia para marcar sua import\u00e2ncia e, quem sabe, dar um incentivo a quem anda na luta para ser um esp\u00e9cime de verdade.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m ensina a ser pai, os modelos est\u00e3o fracos e confusos, e os bons exemplos s\u00e3o raros. Perdemos refer\u00eancias culturais que moldavam a atua\u00e7\u00e3o dos homens quando se casavam e tinham filhos.<\/span><\/p>\n

O moralismo e grande parte da hipocrisia que cristalizaram pap\u00e9is sociais no passado foram despejados ralo abaixo, mas a \u00e1gua suja que levou embora o autoritarismo militar paterno levou tamb\u00e9m sua autoridade necess\u00e1ria.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quem se esfor\u00e7a hoje para se tornar pai tem desafios duplicados. Bem entendido: tornar-se pai n\u00e3o \u00e9 chegar \u00e0quele dia em que os colegas da firma lhe d\u00e3o parab\u00e9ns pelo trabalho supremo que sua parceira realizou na sala de parto; na verdade, a\u00ed \u00e9 que come\u00e7a o real trabalho masculino de virar pai.<\/span><\/p>\n

Um trabalho em campo minado, j\u00e1 que a rotina e os apelos do mercado disparam est\u00edmulos constantes no sentido oposto ao do esfor\u00e7o de um pai leg\u00edtimo. Tudo ao redor diz para ceder, comprar, deixar, abrandar, quando a ess\u00eancia de sua fun\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 ser uma refer\u00eancia de lei, limite, frustra\u00e7\u00e3o das vontades dos filhos, com o devido amparo, respeito e acolhimento de seus protestos.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 comum ouvir que os pais hoje est\u00e3o divididos entre o autoritarismo do passado e a permissividade p\u00f3s-moderna. Talvez n\u00e3o seja bem assim. O autoritarismo – que n\u00e3o se referencia numa lei, e sim na vontade do autorit\u00e1rio – tem o mesmo caldo da omiss\u00e3o, da pregui\u00e7a, da comodidade e da falta de compromisso com o trabalho paterno.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muito em comum entre os autorit\u00e1rios do passado e os de hoje, que se comportam como consumidores ranhetas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos filhos que n\u00e3o executam a contento as fun\u00e7\u00f5es de conforto e entretenimento parentais. O discurso moderno \u00e9 cheio de armadilhas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fam\u00edlias e comunidades mudaram, e h\u00e1 pouco apoio no entorno. Os pais que realmente querem assumir suas fun\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00eam, praticamente, de se isolar dos padr\u00f5es sociais para construir essa postura de autoridade e refer\u00eancia.<\/span><\/p>\n

A esses pais, a boa not\u00edcia \u00e9 que n\u00e3o est\u00e3o sozinhos, embora se sintam assim muitas vezes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Feliz dia dos pais.<\/span><\/p>\n

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